I hate Edhla!!!

I hate Edhla she’s accusing me of being culturally intensive and lazy.

This is what she wrote:

MadameLee- you have no idea what you’re talking about. I wasn’t talking about forced marriage. I was talking about ARRANGED marriage. Even if the bride is happy with her groom, she does not get to pick him. She is given to him by her father, usually in exchange for money or land. She is her father’s property and becomes her husband’s property. That’s what an arranged marriage IS. That is what they are for.

If you are trying to play it both ways and have the option of the child saying “no” to a potential spouse, that isn’t an arranged marriage. That’s an ordinary marriage with nosy parents.

You are the one who is completely ignorant of what you’re proposing here- all because you seem to be too lazy to have your sims date like everyone else has to do. Oh yes, and pretty dresses. That’s all it comes down to. Just use the darn socials. Or testingcheatsenabled true and slide their relationship bar up to best friendship and go from there.

You seem to think that if you spam this thread and bump it up enough somebody from EA will think this is an awesome idea. It will never happen. It’s as misguided as those wanting polygamy in the game, or that guy a few weeks ago who saw “Shutter Island” and wanted EA to have sims that were schizophrenic, bipolar, etc.

And I wouldn’t be coming down so hard on you if it wasn’t for how culturally insensitive you’re being. This is a serious freakin’ issue in many parts of the world and can lead to all sorts of social and relationship problems. Aero commented that not everyone hates it, but those of us who are not in that culture and who aren’t being palmed off between men who legally own us have NO right to act as though this is some sort of cute way of cheating the romantic socials.

Her point about woman were property was True-once. But now Arranged Marriage brides DO get a say they pick from a list of potential spouses their parents made.

If it was such a freaking issue in the first place in many parts of the world why aren’t there more newspapers articles about it? All I can found is articles about it in INDIA-where a friend’s family lives. ‘

I’m not being d- lazy it just either everyone doesn’t want to 1) spamming 5,000 romance options every single gen. gets boring pretty fast with or without either party having Hopeless Romantic or flirty traits or 2) having to cheat after spamming 5,000 Romance options takes the fun out of the entire idea.

You read it who’s being culturally intensive me or her?

WHAT IS SO FREAKING WRONG ABOUT WANTING ARRANGED MARRIAGE AND OTHER WEDDING THEMES IN SIMS3?

WHAT IS SO FREAKING WRONG ABOUT WANTING ARRANGED MARRIAGE AND OTHER WEDDING THEMES IN SIMS3?

a matchmaker/”introduce” option is needed
a) if we are playing Chinese/ African families how about we have Astronomers (NPCs and non NPCs) which the Chinese parents (or the bride or bridegroom) could contact to see what day/date would be in their favour for a wedding.
b) the betrothal could be either when your child is a baby/toddler or when he/she is a child.

2)well you could play it 2 ways 1)well the groom or bride to be (depends on which gender the betrothed child is-the opposite gender of child of your sims’) leaves the fam. to live with the other family (in other words-your sims’ family)

Since the first point in part two of the originally post is NOT hinting at child bride or child grooms-that’s a totally different thing. The child bride/groom leave their family to lives in the same house with their future husband/wife but everyone just treats him/her as a member of the family and than when both the betrothed parties are teens they bride- or groom to be goes back to their family until they are YAs when the actual marriage will happen.. 2) The two don’t meet until they are either children or teenagers. They don’t actually get married until YA stage

3)Well you can decide to break off the betrothal at any age. or continue it (yes the said betrothal parties can decide to “run after someone else”.)

“Arranged marriages have existed since ancient times” “But in areas in the world where arranged marriages are practiced (such as India), they seem as natural as the idea of “falling in love” seems to us.”

 

got this off of somewhere can’t remember where:

“Point of clarification: it is unfortunate that arranged marriages are taken in a negative light by western societies. This is attributed to a lack of knowledge about the whole concept of arranged marriages.

 

Not all these marriages are forced. Parents ensure that their sons and daughters are satisfied with their parents’ choices. The children’ consent is vital, and should a prospective partner be refused, parents will simply have to find another suitable choice. A courtship period is also allowed by certain cultures, and in more modern societies like India, the couple is encouraged to go out on dates so they can get to know each other better.”

In an arranged marriage, the father knows that he wants to get someone for his daughter that will not only be a good match, but who is dependable, honest, and will be able to support the family. He will essentially research the possibilities, consider the strengths and weaknesses of potential husbands, and ultimately make a deal with someone he thinks will suit his daughter. And, of course, the man’s family has similar concerns. Who do you think will make a better choice — a hormone influenced 18 year old aroused by some rugged roguish guy who turns her on, or a father thinking about the long term happiness of his daughter?

“Moreover, in arranged marriages the couple does not suffer the illusion that romantic love can last. In America, she noted, couples “fall in love,” and then when the romance fades and life becomes routine, they “fall out of love.”

 

We in the West seek to maintain the fantasy that you can find a soul mate with whom you’ll feel an eternal connection and bond. When things start getting boring and the romance fades (as it inevitably does), we start to regret the choice we made.

 

Maybe he or she isn’t the right one? We start thinking about what we could be achieving without being “tied down” by a spouse and even kids. And, of course, since our imaginations are limitless, almost always we can fantasize a better life than the one we have. Soon, desiring the sensation of “being in love” we break up, deciding that the other person just isn’t right.”

“In arranged marriages, you go into it with the idea that it’s not about love, it’s about commitment.

 

Both realize that their families made this choice, and they are responsible to get to know the other person and make a family. Over time, the bond forms, and almost always (in part since parents usually are careful in making the choice) love happens. And since it’s not the rush of romance followed by the let down of routine, it ends up being a stable love, one that doesn’t depend on emotional highs.”

In the West, she noted, we start by falling in love with an illusion.When we don’t know someone well we “fill in the gaps” with how we imagine them to be — usually imagining what we would consider the perfect mate.

I call this the “halo effect.” When we get to know the person better, we inevitably find that our imagination was off, the person is real, not a result of our fantasy. In an arranged marriage, you have no illusions, you may even fear that the person won’t be someone you can get along with. You get to know someone on their own terms, generating mutual respect. It is a more realistic relationship.”

Finally, she argued, look at the results. Here relationships and marriages break up right and left, tearing apart families, creating hardships for children, and often leading couples to keep seeking the unobtainable – long term romantic love. In her country, and in most countries with arranged marriages, divorce rates are low, and people tend to have happy families. How on earth can we defend our irrational emotion-driven method of having teens with hormone buzzes choosing who to spend the rest of their lives with chosen spouse.

Next Points are from my dad a History Teacher:
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Arranged Marriage is more of a social than a religious aspect even our hunter-gather ancestors probably did arranged Marriages too (and as far as I’m aware the earliest religion would be Mesopotamians’ religion)

In the lower middle ages the only people who got married in the church were kings and great nobles. Knights and lower nobles didn’t get married in the church they got married on the steps of the church.

1). More than a white wedding dress:

Indian Wedding dress usually called a Lehnga Cholis

-this looks NOTHING like the Chinese dresses in-game
Chinese

In Ireland the Wedding dress is blue, In Spain its black

2) have bridesmaids and best man/best men

Here all some ideas I found online:

from Denmark:

“[b]At some point during the marriage celebration the groom will disappear and the male guests all kiss the new bride. After the groom returns his bride eventually leaves the room and all of the female guests kiss him.[/b]”

any more ideas?

page-boys and flower-girls would be good too. Ring bearer

How in the heck could Arranged Marriage change the f- rating? Its not like I said the teens/children are going to get married at the teenage/child stage?

and EA is already playing or has already played with fire, what with same-sex marriage in games Sims 1-3, Witchcraft (a full magic EP in Sims 1, and a little feature of Sims 2 AL), not to mention stuff like Vampires (Sims 2 Night Life and Sims 3 Late Night), werewolves, zombies (Sims 2) and Mummies (Sims 3: WA)

 

Mare what do you think about the clock in the following riddle?

Mare what do you think about the clock in the following riddle?

John goes to bed after a long day of work, he goes to bed at 10 PM and he WINDS UP his clock for noon the next day. How many hours does he sleep?

is it A) 14 hours
or is it B)2 hours since such a clock can’t be set 12 hours in advance since it can’t tell the difference between AM and PM?

My parents and I believe its B) and Deb and the others thinks its A) your opinion?

Hey Mare thanks for you adding me to your story

Hey Mare thanks for you adding me to your story. I am not that Naive. I would have said: “I need to take a look through this telescope myself. Who knows I might spot something You missed.” or “I been reading this Sleeping Dragon story for awhile and I happen to know something you don’t.” Both Anne of Ellabur and Vera are Doctor Who Fans so they would recognize The Doctor from a mile away. I don’t watch Everyone Loves Raymond. Sabrina the Teenage Witch Dvd set? Yes, ELR DVD set? No. Another note have “Anne” tell Moryie next time they are in an argument that there actually were female Ninjas but they didn’t use any “manly” stuff. They used more womanly stuff (for instance a fan and there had gloves with REALLY long sharp nails). Also have me tell Moryie real historians are debating whether or not Mochizuki Chiyome was real or not.

Tangled arugments-Gothel wasn’t a stepmom and Rapunzel wasn’t enslaved

“Mother” Gothel isn’t/wasn’t a step mom since that would mean the birth mom/queen either split up with the birth dad/king, or the birth mom/queen died. But we know that isn’t true since both Rapunzel’s birth parents were together the entire movie. Go look up the meaning of step-mom. Oh and unlike Snow White/Cinderella’s step moms Gothel WANTED Rapunzel (so it was mostly hair). I believe Gothel really did love Rapunzel since how else would Rapunzel learn to read,cook, bake?.

Rapunzel wasn’t enslaved since the definition of “enslaved” is “To make into or as if into a slave” and technically that applies more to the first 2 Disney Princesses (Snow White and Cinderella-considering they were “forced to become servants in their own home”) then Rapunzel-so sure she does chores what kid doesn’t do chores-beside she need to do something when waiting for “Mother” to come home didn’t she?