Trapped in life&death

Imagine this you are a girl 11-14 years of age. You can’t go to school and you are  married to someone else. You have to travel long distances to collect water and come back home with it. In many poorer countries this is life for lots of girls some even have children of their own.

Last March (March 2011) Canada’s Reader Digest publish an story about a 10 year old girl who got married but was brave enough to go to courthouses to get a divorce. Until she got married she was able to go to school. Only doing the period marriage preparations were happening did she realize her misfortune since her soon-to-be-husband’s family said she wouldn’t go to school after they’re married. It gets worse. The first night she is at her husband’s house. Her husband comes into her (?) bedroom and starts to rub against her (something akin to rape) yet the man had promised her father he wouldn’t touch her until she was older. She couldn’t leave the house,  couldn’t complain, no right to say no. She had to cut up the veggies, wash the floor, do dishes and if she stopped the mom-in-law pulled her hair. On the 3rd night the husand began beating her with his hands and then with a stick She was married Feb 2008 and she divorced in March of 2008.

In 1996 -2001 when the Taliban had control of  Afghanistan a lot of young girls had to masquerade as boys since women couldn’t leave the house without a male escort and when they did leave the house they had to wear the burqa and girls could not attend school (The Taliban disallowed it)  so any schools that girls did have were “secret” schools run by women.


In some places like India where there are arranged marriages families  who do it still have to have a dowry even though that in law, its illegal to do  so. Also the husband’s family asks for outrages things (well to the bride’s family it would be, not to us Westerns) ie: fridge, and if the bride’s family has relatives in another country (ie. Canada) there will be pressure from the Groom’s family to get them (the bride&groom) sponsorship.



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